Nora McInerny on Grief

I’ve watched this TedTalk twice now. Once after my Grandma died and today, a month after my Auntie’s death. The loss of these two powerful women has been tremendously difficult. I’ve always believed that you never truly move on from someone’s death. You just learn to live without them. Learning to live without people you love —not being able to hear them laugh, share life experiences with them and everything else. Still cripples me to tears.

After rewatching Nora’s TedTalk, I’ve realised that there’s a difference between learning to live without them and moving forward through life with grief.

“We don’t move on from grief. We move forward with it.”

I’ve learnt to live without them but I’m not moving forward in life with grief. I’ve come to the root cause of why I haven’t been driven and motivated to kill it at life and pursue everything that I want for myself. I’ve been holding myself back because I keep thinking —what’s the point if I can’t share it with them. Over this weekend my energy has shifted I feel more determined than ever to celebrate life and create a life for myself that I want. I know that where ever my Grandma and Auntie are, they’re watching over me. I will carry their love and the lives we’ve had together into the next chapters of my life.